i have been drifting around Second Life for ages, though recently i shed most of my other personas for this one; i still revisit a couple others, to see friends, but for the more part, i have narrowed down what i am doing in SL.
For a while, i was a frequent visitor to the Dominion Femdom. While i felt safe there, and enjoyed speaking with the Ladies and their submissives, and learning more about the s side of a D/s relationship; up until last year, i was only and always the D of that equation. At first, i was there to learn how to be a better submissive for my First Life lover, since She was the first person I could submit to.
She wasn't a very good person, though. i was extremely submissive to Her, and She could exert dominance fairly easy, at least with myself on that side of the /, but She wasn't willing to really take the responsibility that came from it; She didn't even think about the fact i would sub-drop the first time after submission, and only dealt with it after the fact. She completely disregarded the fact that the way she ended things would put me into a harder, longer sub-drop; She then refused to acknowledge that it was the larger part of the problem i was having afterward.
Really, She likely still doesn't get that part of it.
This made me almost back out of the BDSM lifestyle entirely. A First Life friend convinced me not to, and requested that i take a protection collar from her there to break the connection between my ex-lover, and give me a shield when i was finally capable of going back to the places where i had a huge chance of running into Her.
However, online, in Second Life and in MMOs, i still felt very vulnerable. Part of me was longing to be someone's submissive, but the better part of me knew that it was too soon; i still wanted to be protected though, so i built in numerous detriments to aspiring courtiers when i made my characters. Months later, Lady Aime and i had spent a lot of time together in a particular MMO, and knew each other from before.
When i returned to Second Life this time, Lady Aime - whom was already drawn to me and protective - became even more so when She saw my expression of self here. When She offered me a collar, i felt that it was the right moment to try again. She took me to a few different stores to look through collars, and we both agreed that the Etched collar by Sensations was the perfect fit.
Already, i feel a little better about the BDSM lifestyle again, and i feel safe both online and offline now. i am very happy that Lady Aime decided she wanted to keep me. *smiles*
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